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How Do We Make Godly Decisions? – Study of Proverbs 6:1-5 – To Loan or Not to Loan

In Advice, Anxiety, Biblical Principles, Chrisitan Lifestyle, Christian Living, Confusion, Decision Making, Discretion, Godly Counsel, Loans, Money, Proverbs, Prudence, Truth, Uncategorized, Wisdom on April 25, 2019 at 9:00 am

The Scripture passages are identified with bold upright font and the author’s notes are identified with italic regular font.

Note – All words or phrases found in quotation marks are actual parts of the Hebrew definition(s).

1 My son, if thou be surety for thy friend, if thou hast stricken thy hand with a stranger, 2 Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth. 3 Do this now, my son, and deliver thyself, when thou art come into the hand of thy friend; go, humble thyself, and make sure thy friend. 4 Give not sleep to thine eyes, nor slumber to thine eyelids. 5 Deliver thyself as a roe from the hand of the hunter, and as a bird from the hand of the fowler.

To Loan or Not to Loan

You are a Christian, you have a Christian friend, you love your Christian friend, your Christian friend needs money – what to do.

Some people would argue we are to help those in need, therefore, of course you give your friend the money. Other people would say loaning money to a friend is sure trouble. What does godly wisdom say?

Verse one and two tell us that if we become “surety” for a friend we will find ourselves “snared” in a situation we should not be in. Most of you know what it means to be snared, we become entangled in a negative way.

What does it mean to be “surety” for a friend? In the Hebrew language “surety” means the following.

“surety” =

6148. עָרַב ˓ârab, aw-rab’; a prim. root; to braid, i.e. intermix; tech. to traffic (as if by barter); also to give or be security (as a kind of exchange):— engage, (inter-) meddle (with), mingle (self), mortgage, occupy, give pledges, be (-come, put in) surety, undertake.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary states that “surety” means the following.

“surety” =

guarantee b : a basis of confidence or security
3 : one who has become legally liable for the debt, default, or failure in duty of another

The New Living Translation of the Bible puts verse one this way, “My child, if you have put up security for a friend’s debt or agreed to guarantee the debt of a stranger—" – so this about money; giving money or being security for money a friend borrows.

When we become the financial security of a friend by loaning them money, we put ourselves in a position within their life that God never intended for us to have. We also find that more times than not, if you loan a person money once, they will come back for more, and if we loan them money twice, they will come back often. We are not meant to be the financial security for our friends.

When we co-sign a loan for a friend, we put our own financial health at risk. If we have a family, we put our entire family’s financial health at risk. We put our credit at risk.

The loaning of money or securing a loan for a friend is not an act of godly wisdom. Nor is it godly wisdom for us to ask a friend to do such for us. We are to humbly and with loving kindness explain to our friend why we cannot become involved in their financial situation (v.3).

Money is on the top of the list of things that will come between two friends. Money has such power over people that when we mix money and friendship the results can be anger, hurt, ugly words, and one less friendship, not to mention the potential loss of money. Therefore, I know you love your friend, but I urge you to think carefully and consider God’s wisdom on the matter before loaning money to a friend.

Throughout this study if you need the wisdom of God on a matter, and you wish to receive the counsel of another Believer in Christ, please use the “comments” link to send your question to me.

Spiritual/Political Disclaimer:

This blog will not be for the faint of heart or the easily offended. It will not be in any way politically correct. It will make every effort to share the truth in love, [Ephesians 4:11-16], to a decaying and dying society and church. I share what I share not to hurt, harm, or offend any person[s] or group; I do it because Christ’s Standard and Truth is not being represented by enough of His Followers, and I do it out of love. I love enough to tell His Truth.

Ephesians 4:11-16 NKJV

11And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, 12for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.

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How Do We Make Godly Decisions? – Study of Proverbs 5:21 –23 – God Sees

In Adultery, Advice, Biblical Principles, Chrisitan Lifestyle, Christian Living, Decision Making, Discretion, Divorce, Godly Counsel, Proverbs, Prudence, Renewal, Repentance, Revival, Truth, Uncategorized, Wisdom on April 18, 2019 at 12:05 pm

The Scripture passages are identified with bold upright font and the author’s notes are identified with italic regular font.

Note – All words or phrases found in quotation marks are actual parts of the Hebrew definition(s).

21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings. 22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. 23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

God Sees

God sees it all my friends. God understandings it all. God cares about it all. There is nothing about us, in our lives, or that touches our lives that God does not know about in advanced and has thoroughly considered. The path of our life has been thoroughly dredged by God. V.21

This in no way means that God has fated our entire life or that all that happens to us is our destiny or even God’s Will, for neither possibility is supported by the whole of Scripture. There are things that are our destiny, fated by God to happen in our life, then there are things that happen that God had no part of or who does not even want to have take place.

Have you ever heard it said, ‘People get caught in their own trap.’? Well, verse twenty-two is where that comes from.

Most of the problems caused in our life derive from our own wrongdoing or from the wrongdoing of someone very close to us (v.22). Think over the last six major problems you had in your life? What actually caused the problems? Was the damage done due to your own sin or the way someone close to you had sinned? And what about when sin begets sin…someone does to you, you do to them, it spreads to yet another person who is affected, so on and so forth. Our sins are like a giant mushroom gas that spreads out far and wide and poisons all of those people close to us if we are not careful.

That sin can come in all types of forms. In verse twenty-two the word used for “iniquities” in the Hebrew is inclusive of the following: “perversity, in example moral evil:— fault, iniquity, mischief, punishment (of iniquity), sin.” There are many people who do not see their “faults” as sin, it is to them just their faults. However, ask those affected by their “faults” and you might find them well able to describe the person’s sin. You show me hurt between two people, and I will show you sin somewhere in the mix. v.22

Giving oneself to sin is extremely dangerous because ultimately it leads to us being bound by our own sin, which is what it means to be “holden with the cords of his sin.” v.22 Our sin begins to take control of us instead of us controlling sin. Anyone caught in a sin they are struggling to stop will attest to that truth.

Have you ever known a person who was just silly far too often? Now reflect on that person’s life and character. I can almost assure you in nearly each case that person was a person of little or no true substance in life. They lacked anything that truly mattered to them or for which they had deep passion. Part of the definition for the word “folly” found in verse twenty-three means “silliness” – silliness and folly are companions. v.23

Because people refuse to be mindful of God’s godly wisdom they will die in their folly and sin. Folly leads to going astray and going astray leads to death. Going “astray in the Hebrew language means “to stray, usually figuratively to mistake, especially morally to transgress; by extension (through the idea of intoxication) to reel, figuratively be enraptured:— cause to go astray, deceive, err, be ravished, sin through ignorance, let or make to wander.” v.23

That path of life that I wrote of a few paragraphs back, the path that God’s dredges before us, the path to our “true life” is not a path that is meant to be filled with sorrow caused by sin and folly, your own or the sin and folly of those closes to you, it is the path of godly wisdom instead that He desires for each of us. This is why He has placed His instructions in His Word, not to restrict us but instead to protect our life from harm. Instructions such as love each other, husbands and wives be kind to one another esteeming the other greater, do not lie, do not steal, do not misuse your body, do no get drunk, do not commit adultery, rejoice with our brethren when they rejoice, help carry their sorrows when they hurt, husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church, wives respect your husbands, etc. all meant to protect us.

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Please keep me in your prayers and know that if God should speak anything into your heart as you pray for me regarding my life please feel free to share that with me. God speaks through His people.

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Spiritual/Political Disclaimer:

This blog will not be for the faint of heart or the easily offended. It will not be in any way politically correct. It will make every effort to share the truth in love, [Ephesians 4:11-16], to a decaying and dying society and church. I share what I share not to hurt, harm, or offend any person[s] or group; I do it because Christ’s Standard and Truth is not being represented by enough of His Followers, and I do it out of love. I love enough to tell His Truth.

Ephesians 4:11-16 NKJV

11And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, 12for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.

How Do We Make Godly Decisions? – Study of Proverbs 5:15 –20 Infidelity – A Love Killer

In Adultery, Advice, Biblical Principles, Chrisitan Lifestyle, Christian Living, Confusion, Decision Making, Discretion, Divorce, Godly Counsel, Marriage, Proverbs, Prudence, Repentance, Truth, Uncategorized, Wisdom on April 5, 2019 at 11:57 am

The Scripture passages are identified with bold upright font and the author’s notes are identified with italic regular font.

Note – All words or phrases found in quotation marks are actual parts of the Hebrew definition(s).

15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. 16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. 17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. 18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

Infidelity – A Love Killer

Infidelity of any kind, in any form, is the worst thing you can possibly do to a marriage. It is the betrayal of the love you share with your spouse. Infidelity tears at the covenant between a man and woman, a husband and wife.

Hence the reason God makes it plain to find our pleasures in all forms in our spouse. When we find our pleasure in the company of a member of the opposite sex, who is not our spouse, we are being unfaithful to our marriage covenant, whether that pleasure be sexual, spiritual, emotional, mental, intellectual, etc.

We are designed for deep intimacy with one person of the opposite sex, our spouse. It is in them we are to find our satisfaction on any level relationally with the opposite sex. “Fountains” in the Hebrew language means, “figuratively a source of satisfaction.”

A man is meant to continue with the wife to whom he marries in his youth (v.18), divorce is not God’s design though He does make provisions for allowing it to happen. Adultery does such severe damage to the marriage covenant that it is one of only two reasons God allows divorce. (One may divorce in the case of adultery, Matthew 5:27-32, or in the case of an unbelieving spouse who desires to divorce a Believer, 1 Corinthians 7:10-16. – However, as a Believer we are not enter into a relationship with an unbeliever in the first place, 2 Corinthians 6:11-18.)

Not only is a man to remain with the wife of his youth, she is the only woman he is to receive any sexual excitement or satisfaction from all the days of his life (v.19). Yes men, books, movies, computer images, thoughts of another woman, are sin, your thoughts are only to be for your wife. You are to keep your desires focused, and for that matter alive, for your wife. v.19 Note here that God addresses the man with the responsibility for keeping his interest in his wife alive.

Verse twenty asked the question, ‘Why would you want anyone else but your wife?’ That is a question for the ages. How many men thought they wanted something else other than the wife of their youth only to find once they had the woman they so thought they desired, and the bloom was off of the rose, they were longing to have the wife of their youth back, the woman who had loved them so, yet, in many cases it was too late or in the cases where they were able to have the wife of their youth back they had damaged the once precious love that woman had for them.

Adultery kills love, think twice before partaking in it on any level!

Throughout this study if you need the wisdom of God on a matter, and you wish to receive the counsel of another Believer in Christ, please use the “comments” link to send your question to me.

Also, please keep me in your prayers and know that if God should speak anything into your heart as you pray for me regarding my life please feel free to share that with me. God speaks through His people.

Spiritual/Political Disclaimer:

This blog will not be for the faint of heart or the easily offended. It will not be in any way politically correct. It will make every effort to share the truth in love, [Ephesians 4:11-16], to a decaying and dying society and church. I share what I share not to hurt, harm, or offend any person[s] or group; I do it because Christ’s Standard and Truth is not being represented by enough of His Followers, and I do it out of love. I love enough to tell His Truth.

Ephesians 4:11-16 NKJV

11And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, 12for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.

How Do We Make Godly Decisions? – Study of Proverbs 5:1-14 – Adultery in the Flesh and in the Spirit

In Anxiety, Biblical Principles, Chrisitan Lifestyle, Christian Living, Confusion, Decision Making, Godliness, Godly Counsel, Marriage, Proverbs, Prudence, Truth, Uncategorized, Wisdom on March 28, 2019 at 9:00 am

The Scripture passages are identified with bold upright font and the author’s notes are identified with italic regular font.

Note – All words or phrases found in quotation marks are actual parts of the Hebrew definition(s).

1 My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: 2 That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge. 3 For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: 4 But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. 6 Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. 7 Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. 8 Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: 9 Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: 10 Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; 11 And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, 12 And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; 13 And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me! 14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

Adultery in the Flesh and in the Spirit

The Law of Double Reference is when a portion of Scripture can be applied in more than one way, applied literally (in the physical) or figuratively (spiritually), and could apply to more than one person or group(s) of people at various times. A principle consisting of one of the afore mentioned variables or any combination thereof. The Law of Double Reference can be applied to Proverbs chapter five as the principles found therein can be applied to spiritual adultery, lack of the use of godly wisdom, and literal marital adultery.

In verses one through fourteen we can see the damaging affects and effects of adultery in a person’s life, the type of adultery found when one refuses to use godly wisdom as God instructs and instead decides ot use their own wisdom or worse yet worldly wisdom, which is represented by the ‘strange woman’s drops of honeycomb’ in verse three. The use of worldly wisdom in place of godly wisdom is a form of spiritual adultery against God our Creator, Christ our Savior.

Let us examine the fall-out we can expect when we fail to apply godly wisdom to our life, instead using worldly wisdom.

v.4 – The use of worldly wisdom is sure to result in bitterness and pain. The world’s ways of dealing with the events of life keep you bound to those events, they shape who you are, whereas godly wisdom applied when the issues of life arise will free you from the inner turmoil and the events of life just become things that have happened to you not things that have defined who you are.

v.5 Wordily wisdom will lead you to misery in life and in some cases death. Worldly wisdom pulls you down further and further, whereas godly wisdom pulls you up and out of your circumstances as an overcomer.

v.6 Applying worldly wisdom will mess up the course of your life, as only God knows His Plans and Purposes for you, therefore, only godly wisdom can help you walk in His Will, Plan, and Purpose for your life.

v.9 Your honor in life will be robbed from you if you choose the path of worldly wisdom. You will be treated with, or even set yourself up for, utter disrespect at times by people.

v.10 When you use worldly wisdom you find that other people will end up with your money and what you have worked for will end up in the hands of other people instead of your own.

v.11 The use of worldly wisdom can actually result in the loss of your health. You may find yourself simply wasting away with disease.

Abandoning godly wisdom and/or substituting worldly wisdom in its place is a choice you will come to regret, as verses twelve through fourteen point out. Verse seven and eight warns us to stay away from worldly wisdom. Perhaps we should listen.

Throughout this study if you need the wisdom of God on a matter, and you wish to receive the counsel of another Believer in Christ, please use the “comments” link to send your question to me.

Spiritual/Political Disclaimer:

This blog will not be for the faint of heart or the easily offended. It will not be in any way politically correct. It will make every effort to share the truth in love, [Ephesians 4:11-16], to a decaying and dying society and church. I share what I share not to hurt, harm, or offend any person[s] or group; I do it because Christ’s Standard and Truth is not being represented by enough of His Followers, and I do it out of love. I love enough to tell His Truth.

Ephesians 4:11-16 NKJV

11And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, 12for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.